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Dr. Darrel Ray is an atheist, humanist, and psychologist. He is the author of The God Virus, and specializes in issues relating to religious deconversion. [ more ]
If you have an issue relating to religion but no one to talk to, ask Dr. Ray. He doesn’t promise that he has all the answers, but hopefully he will be able to provide insight and experience that will be beneficial for both you and for the many other young people in similar situations.
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How do I come out as an atheist to the person I’m dating?

From Dr. Ray

If you are just casual dating, you may not need to come out. Just have good philosophical discussions with him/her and listen to their viewpoint, then express yours. If this is a serious relationship, honesty is the best policy. Too many people think these things will all get worked out because we love each other. Unfortunately, most of the time that is not the case. The cold, hard fact is: religious people can be more in love with their religion than they are with you. If their religion is more important to them than you are, it’s best to find that out early.

If the person you are dating is pretty open minded, coming out may not be an issue. Tell him that you want to talk about something very important to you and explain why you want them to know. Be careful to listen to them as well. This should be a two way conversation. They will very likely disagree with you. Respect what they say and listen. Once you open the door to this discussion, remember it is not just a single conversation. They will listen to you. They will think about it, and in a few days or weeks they will likely come back and want to talk about it more. If you remain calm and open in these conversations, you may learn a lot about one another’s world view.

The biggest mistake that most people make is thinking that one conversation is all that is needed. Coming out to the person you are dating is just the beginning of a long series of conversations that can be rich and rewarding for both of you.

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